I’d like to suggest ______ questions you can ask yourself in situations like this to help yourself navigate through.
Question #1: What exactly is it that they are doing that is upsetting to you?
It’s important to get crystal clear on the behavior (or lack of behavior) that isn’t working for you. It’s easy to make it personal and imagine it’s just ‘that person’ and ‘who they are’. But it’s never that. It’s always something more particular. If you can’t identify what it is, then you will lack any power to make the particular changes needed to protect yourself from it in the future.
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